Couples with different personality traits can enjoy a romantic, loving Valentine's Day together. If you have introverted personality traits, you may feel overwhelmed with the excessive displays of love on February 14. And if you’re an introvert in love with an extrovert, you may become anxious and even panicked at the thought of Valentine’s Day -- and your more outgoing partner’s expectations.
These five ways to say “I love you” on Valentine’s Day will help couples in love celebrate their different personality traits and their relationship. For help finding the best presents for romance, read Romantic Valentine's Day Gift Ideas.
When You’re an Introvert in Love with an Extrovert
When you’re an introvert in love with an extrovert, the most important thing to remember is to accept yourself for who you are. Typical introverted personality traits include being uncomfortable in big groups of people, shyness, and a preference for being alone or with just your partner for company. The sooner you accept yourself as an introvert – and the more you verbally communicate your introverted personality traits to your partner – the happier you’ll be in your relationship, whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not.
And, the sooner you accept your sweetheart's extroverted personality traits, the happier you'll both be as a couple in love.
5 Ways to Say “I Love You” on Valentine's Day
- Figure out what would make you feel loved. As an introvert on Valentine’s Day, you may love the idea of staying home with a bowl of popcorn and a romantic movie (and your sweetheart!). Think about how you really want to celebrate Valentine’s Day, and share your wishes with your partner.
- Discover what would make your partner feel loved. If your partner is an extrovert, he may not want to stay home. Perhaps he’d rather go to a Valentine’s Day party or have dinner at a popular restaurant. Really think about what your partner wants. Better yet, ask him how he’d best like to spend Valentine’s Day. Don’t just assume he wants to party.
- Accept your introverted personality traits. Many introverts feel guilty, awkward, or even ashamed about their introverted personality traits. Instead of feeling bad about yourself (which can negatively affect your relationship), accept who you are. Similarly, accept your partner’s extroverted personality traits (if you’re an “introvert and extrovert in love” couple). Here's a description of an introvert's personality traits.
- Seek balance as a couple in love. If your extroverted sweetheart has her heart set on a Valentine’s Day party or party cruise, find a way to compromise. Unless you’re both introverts on Valentine’s Day, you may have to find middle ground.
- Step out of your boundaries. If you’re an introvert on Valentine’s Day, consider pushing the envelope a bit. Maybe it’s time to explore your partner’s ways to say “I love you” as a way to learn more about both yourself and your lover. Do something you wouldn’t normally do, and be open minded about the experience.
Though partners with extroverted and introverted personality traits are very different, they can enjoy a loving relationship as a couple -- and they can have a romantic Valentine's Day together!
If you found Valentine’s Day for Introverts helpful, you might like How to Build a Strong Relationship for Introverts and Extroverts in Love.
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen is a full-time writer and blogger in Vancouver, BC, and the creator of the Quips and Tips blog series.
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