Finding your true identity and authentic self can be tricky because our culture – any culture – rewards conformity, "normal" behavior, and blending in with the crowd. Here are five ways to find yourself - your true identity. Self-improvement psychology can make your life better and more enjoyable!
Finding your true identity and being yourself is the greatest gift you can give to your family, friends, and the world.
Finding Your True Identity and Authentic Self
These five ways to find yourself will increase your self-esteem and strengthen your confidence - because confidence and self-improvement makes your life good!
1. Listen to your gut. To find your authentic self, put other people’s expectations aside. What do you think, feel, and want? One way to find your true identity and honor self-improvement is to know you do care what people think...and listening to your gut anyway. You can care what people think and still find yourself – and be your authentic self. Listening to your gut helps with honoring your self-development, strengthening self-esteem and finding your true identity.
2. Stay in touch with your dreams and goals. You have responsibilities to live up to, but you can still find your true identity and honor self-improvement in the pockets of time you do have. Even if you can’t actively work towards writing a book or going back to school, you can picture yourself achieving your goals some day. Creating a vision board can help with honoring self development, strengthening self esteem and finding your true identity -- and it can help you let go of the past.
3. Express your true emotions. If you feel angry, get your anger out without burying your feelings in chocolate ice cream, cigarettes, wine, or excessive activity. If you’re sad, let yourself feel sad and cry or write in your journal instead of shopping, watching TV, and gossiping. This way to find your true identity and authentic self involves staying in touch with your true emotions. Expressing yourself will increase your self-esteem, strengthening self-confidence and reveal your authentic self.
4. Choose your activities carefully. Instead of participating in activities you feel lukewarm about or outright hate, learn to say no without feeling guilty or ashamed. To find your true identity and be your authentic self, limit your activities to things that support who you are and what you believe in. When you choose what you really want to do, you'll find your true identity, increase your self-esteem and honor your self- development. That's what self-improvement is all about!
5. Take risks. Trust yourself to reach out to others. Let yourself be vulnerable – but still keep your head on your shoulders – and don’t be afraid to make waves. Try new things, especially when you’re afraid, and find creative solutions to your problems. You’ll find your true identity, strengthen your self-esteem, and honor your self-development when you take risks.
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Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen is a full-time writer and blogger in Vancouver, BC, and the creator of the Quips and Tips blog series.
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