Dating for introverted personality types is often intimidating because love relationships – especially new ones – often require huge amounts of energy. When you’re a shy single, you’re often required to make small talk with unfamiliar people, get out of your comfort zone, and make the first move. This can be challenging for introverts!
But, being a single introvert doesn’t have to be painful, and marriage for introverts isn’t an impossible goal. Millions of introverted people enjoy wonderful love relationships, especially when they and their partners truly understand one another. Knowing how introverts communicate is a huge step toward creating strong bonds.
3 Ways for Single Introverts to Meet New People
If you’re just getting used to being an introvert in the singles scene, here are three ways to meet somebody new.
1. Tell your friends and family you're dating. Dating for introverts can be easier when people you know are introducing you to their friends and family. You won’t be jumping into a nightclub or singles weekend retreat all by yourself. Dating for introverts should be a little softer and quieter than dating for extroverts.
2. Take a class or start a hobby. Now’s the time to take a writing or cooking class. Explore the activities you’ve always been interested in, but haven’t pursued. The singles scene for shy men and women doesn’t have to be obvious or embarrassing; it can be as simple as following your own natural interests.
3. Volunteer your time. Dating for introverts can begin with a genuine desire to help others: spending a few hours a week at a homeless shelter, hospital, or church with other volunteers is a great way to get to know people. Volunteering allows you to learn about your community and yourself in a whole new way – and it could open up the door into some introvert love! Being an introvert in the singles scene can be helpful for the whole community!
5 Dating Tips for Introverts - Going on a Date with Someone New
These strategies will help introverted singles break the ice and feel more comfortable.
- Start small. If it's your first date, make it a short coffee or walk. Dating for introverts is easier when there's less pressure, such as dinner at a fine French restaurant.
- If you feel uncomfortable or nervous, talk about it. Voicing your feelings makes them less intimidating – and often makes them much easier to handle.
- Be yourself. Dating for introverts (or for anyone) is difficult when you’re trying to be someone you’re not. Let yourself be real.
- Bring a list of conversation starters. Even just jotting down interesting things to talk about before your date will help spur interesting conversation during the date. Dating is easier when you've thought in advance about making small talk.
- Don’t overindulge in alcohol. Calm down with deep breaths and reminding yourself that your date is another human being with real feelings – and may be just as nervous as you are!
By the way, love between extroverts and introverts love isn't impossible -- it can be romantic, gentle, and rewarding! If you're interested in dating someone with extroverted personality traits, you may find Introverts and Extroverts in Love helpful.
Not sure if you're an introvert? Take this test for introverted personality traits.
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen is a full-time writer and blogger in Vancouver, BC, and the creator of the Quips and Tips blog series.
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