Finding the right counseling service for Christians isn't just about luck or God's will! There are practical ways to discern if a counselor can offer the right help for certain mental or emotional health issues.
Online Christian counseling can be as effective as in-person psychological help -- depending on the counselor and the mental health issue. These ways to find the right Christian counselor are effective for both online and in-person counseling.
Ask Fellow Christians to Recommend a Christian Counseling Service
One of the best ways to find a Christian counselor is to ask other Christians for suggestions. If it feels awkward or embarrassing to talk to friends or fellow church-goers, ask a pastor, preacher, or Christian leader.
Though there's still some stigma attached to counseling (especially for Christians, who may feel that spiritual strength alone should solve mental or emotional health issues), it's important to find a counselor with a proven track record. That may mean swallowing pride and asking for help.
Ask for References for Online Christian Counseling Services
An internet search can make finding online counseling help simple and quick. However, finding the right and best counselor requires a bit more digging! How does a Christian determine if a certain counselor is trustworthy, responsible, and Godly? Many find it helpful to ask the counselor for references; the client can then call or email those references, asking specific questions.
A good Christian counseling service will accept a request for references with grace and humility.
Check the Individual Counselor's Credentials
Always check a counselor's educational background, training, and experience before embarking on therapy. Make sure the counselor has graduated with degrees or diplomas in counseling or psychology (not just Christian training, such as a Masters of Divinity).
Ask the Counselor About the Type of Psychological Therapy Offered
Even though Christian counseling is rooted in Christianity and the Bible, different counselors have different styles of counseling. For instance, some counselors follow one specific type of psychology (such as Freud, Rogers, cognitive-behavioral therapy, or rational emotive therapy).
Most Christian counselors, however, combine a specific type of therapy, which they focused on during their counseling training, with Biblical or Scriptural teaching.
Make Sure the Counselor is "Connectable"
Relating to and feeling comfortable with a Christian counselor is crucial, whether the counseling is online or in-person. The counselor should help clients feel appreciated, valued, and accepted. Clients should notice a progression towards positive, healthy feelings and behaviors. And, clients should believe that the counselor has their best interests in mind.
The key characteristics of a good Christian counselor are mutual affection, comfort, and respect. The more clients connect with their counselors, the better able they'll be to deal with their emotional or mental healh issues.
Related Reading
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If you're embarrassed or ashamed to ask for help, read How Do I Ask for Help for Depression? The sooner you reach out, the faster you'll feel better!
Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen - Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen is a full-time writer and blogger in Vancouver, BC, and the creator of the Quips and Tips blog series.
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